Rules of Couple Fights

Every couple fight, newly weds, dating, married for ages, every couple have misunderstanding and it does flare up many times.

Fights make a relationship stronger if stuck to it code

But, there are certain ethics of a couple fight. Lets call them Codes of Couple Fights

Do not verbally abuse or use foul language Its not nice to abuse a person in the fit of anger,no one likes to be called an a$$h88e or a Sh!*H3@d or a Fu*ker, right?

Do not involve family member names Its a fight between you two, do not name any family member in it. People are sensitive about their family. Never involve her mother, his brother, her sister, his father, his aunt, his uncle. No, steer clear of that territory

Fight that particular topic Like I said, couples fight. But, when you fight, fight on the topic in hand and do not bring up some old topic, and old stories, it will just increase the fight and the whole topic of the fight will be sidelined, and the fight will be flaring up in some different direction.

Do not sleep over a fight As far as possible, dont sleep with a fight without closing it. Its better to finish the fight that start a new day with than old fight.

Although, there might be some topics that might just extend,that might need more talking, more sorting. For such topics, sit discuss come to a conclusion.

Accept apology If your partner is apologizing, accept it. The relationship matters more, than the fight.

Closure never leave a fight open, its like an open wound, if it isnt closed it is going to rot the relationship. Come to a conclusion. Ever issue has a solution. Find one and stick to it.

We fight with the people whom we love the most. But, don't  fight so much that the hate creeps in and takes the place of love

WriteTribe: Keys to a happy marriage

In a marriage, some trivial things become very important to make the relationship strong.

Trust: As said by everyone, trust makes a relationship strong. True, but what if, one person in the relation is the insecure one.
Then the other has to build the trust. They have to keep reassuring to keep their partner feeling secure.
It might be annoying, but like I said. marriage is not a bed of roses, but it is a garden that needs nurturing.
If the insecure partner is not able to accept certain friendship, try to reduce the contact, chats, messages with that person.
If the insecure partner, is not able to accept certain relatives, sit with them, talk it out, be with them in any social gathering where that relative is also involved.
Id the insecure partner, is not comfortable with any particular colleague, as far as possible avoid conversations about that person. Try not to reply, to that colleague when you are with your partner.
Eventually, a year or 2 down the line, when the marriage is strong. All these instances wouldn't matter.

"I Love you" In a marriage, these 2 small words do play a big role. Saying "I love you" regularly and meaning it may bring a smile on your partners face. It make make them feel that "yes, I have someone who cares, who loves, who will be there for me"

Holding hands: "It is said that a touch can heal a 1000 scars on the soul." Imagine what a touch can do to a person whom you love and who loves you back.

Smile, Laugh more often, not only that it is good for a relationship, it also good for yourself.
If you are happy, you can make your partner happy in turn makes your relationship happy that makes your life happy.
Woow, so much happiness
Also, these moments that make you smile will be memories to talk about in the years to come

Fight, it may sound weird, but couples do fight, actually fight a lot. That doesn't mean a couple should have an abusive war. But, some fights are healthy. Every person is an individual and is entitled for an opinion. And not all opinions have to be in sync.Misunderstandings are normal. talking it out, Arguing is a form of understanding each other and partners preferences. That does make a relation strong.

Love, keep this feeling alive. You are married, so what? surprise your partner with a date, an unexpected gift, flowers, or even a small peck.
Love is ultimately the reason that a couple is together, Right?

Small Moments

Romance is not about showering each other with gifts. Its not even about romantic dinners, flowers etc.

A romance for a lifetime is made of small moments like

When he hugs you from behind while you are cooking

When he kisses you on your forehead for no reason

When you have a nice meaningful conversation at the dinner table

When you stand at the balcony, holding hands and saying nothing, just happy to be with each other

When she makes you breakfast inspite of being tired, just to see you smile

When you share a laugh over a silly joke

When you dance together for no occasion per say

When you sing lodly without caring about the world

When you hug each other

When you are there when any one of you is low

When you both are tired, fall into the bed, say that small "Good night"

When you plan months ahead to make their birthday's special

When you help each other in house work

When you see old pictures and laugh over the moments

When he opens a tight jar for you

When he asks you to take rest because you have worked too much

When you hug and sleep

When he puts a warm blanket over you, coz you are cold

When she hugs you during a thunder

When you pursue your own hobbies and still love each others work

When you are watching a movie and so engrossed in it that both do not boher with dishes, but do it later together

When you share an icecream

When even their groggy early morning look, looks cute

When he lets you sleep-in , wakes up before you and wakes you up with a kiss

Something's in life money cant buy. One of those things is love from the person you love

Old Couples

When I see an old couple, even for that matter my parents and in-laws, if gives me this happy-warm feeling inside.

Two people, unknown to each other, together for so many years in spite of so many differences. Its just amazing.

They have and are, actually following their marriage vows.

They stand by each other in thick and thin
They share sorrows, happiness, smiles, tears
They help each other in every possible way
They have unconditionally loved each other for so many years
They have been an emotional pillar for each other
They have mentally, taken care of each other. Hugged each other when required
They have supported each other financially
They have grown together
They have fought, kissed and made up

Now, in the fast-food days, we need everything this instant. If something is wrong in the relationship, instead of understanding, adjusting, compromising and talking it out, we end up breaking the relationship.
That is exactly why divorces these days have become very common.

I want a marriage like the old couple. I want the time when Marriage was for keeps

"Its easy to break a marriage, it takes effort to keep it going strong"

In-Laws

Being done with the honeymoon phase, here enters reality.

After the frenzy of the ceremony, after bidding good bye to the relatives, after being the princess for a day and after the honeymoon actually starts the real life.

I have stayed in my parents house all my life, my parents house is a nice big apartment, on the main street in a very happening city. Now, I have shifted to a not so happening  city, to a very small apartment in a kind of boring location.

Win , being a sweetheart, took in all my whining, and gave me my time to settle down in here. He let me be me. He let me decorate the house as per my wishes and never ever said anything.
I am not pro-cook, I can cook to save my soul.
I have been feeding Win god-knows what, and that nice man has never ever complained even once.

This month we did our first road trip, and went to his parents house.
Trust me, all that thing about "mother-in-law-daughter-in-law never get along" is just a hype.
I have a super sweet mother-in-law who treats me like her daughter, I think i get more pampered in Win's parents house than I ever got in my house

A little effort from your side, being nice to him and his family, thinking that his parents are like your parents, treating his folks like yours, would make him happy.
And an happy husband = A happy marriage = A happy you

The One

I always wanted a boyfriend or a partner, especially after all my friends started marrying and vanishing.
I yearned for a companion. I wanted to be loved, to be cared for. I wanted some one to miss me. I wanted someone to say "I love you" to me. I wanted to be kissed on the forehead when i was asleep. I wanted someone to hold my hand. I wanted someone to lookout for me.
It wasn't out of loneliness or peer pressure, it was genuinely what I wanted.

And came into the picture Win, he is the kind of person who would be lost in a crowd but will stand out of that same crowd for things he truly believes in.

I have dated a few men before, Win would never fit the typical date guy. He was the kind of guy you went to when you had a problem in your science project or maybe if your computer is giving you troubles.
But, after our one liner email interaction, i somehow knew that he is the one.

Yes, he isn't romantic. he doesn't remember dates. He doesn't know to dress up. he docent know to dance.
But, he treats me like a queen. He waited for me to come and set his house up as per my liking. He drives me to where ever I want to go.
I shifted to a new city after we got married. He saw to it that, i was independent and still kept an eye on me.
He lets me be me.

Looks aren't everything, the attitude and nature of a person matters in a relation.
Never judge a book by its cover there is more to a person than what can be seen outside

Start of a new chapter

I always wanted to write about my married life, but never got the time or words to put in appropriately.
So here, I decided to write about it on a blog

I was engaged for almost a year to this awesome man, who is now my husband of four months.

Win, is different. Oh, Introducing my better half, better in every way - Mr. Win

Win is shy, sweet, nice, very smart, basically he is opposite to what I am. I'm  brash, impulsive, a little short tempered.

Ours was an marriage arranged by our parents. We met as strangers, spoke as friends, got engaged, fell in love and had a long distance courtship.

Marriage, has changed us in some way. It has made us to think as "we" and not "me".

There are lot of smiles, hugs, love, memories, secrets, silly names. there are also misunderstandings, fights, arguments, tears.
It made me realize that marriage is not a bed of roses. Its a garden of many flowers that need proper nurturing to grow.

I realized that a marriage is not just two people, a marriage is a merger of two families.

The girl has to like the guy
The guy has to like the girl
The girl's parents have to like the guy
The guy's family have to like the girl
The guy's and girl's friends have a small say in the decision

And is some little energy is left, then couple get married.

I have also realized, in fights we say many things that are not supposed to be said.
I realized "sorry"is not just a 5 letter word anymore. It is a small glue that makes our relationship stronger.

I have heard from people that the 1st year is the hardest.
Now. I agree

Its the first post here...more smiles..more love..more years to go...